Codependency Counselling for Couples in Victoria, BC
& Online
Reclaim your boundaries. Rediscover your sense of self. Rebuild your connection.
What Is Codependency in a Relationship?
Codependency is more than just closeness — it’s a pattern where one or both partners lose a sense of autonomy, self-worth, or emotional regulation outside the relationship dynamic.
It can feel like:
You’re responsible for your partner’s emotions
You struggle to set boundaries without guilt
Your sense of self depends on their approval
Conflict is avoided at all costs
You give and give but feel unseen or resentful
In a city like Victoria, where many couples value deep connection and emotional presence, it's easy for healthy care to slide into enmeshment, especially without clear boundaries or relational tools.
Codependency counselling offers a way to reestablish balance — where love is mutual, boundaries are respected, and each person can thrive both together and apart.
How Codependency Shows Up in Couples
Codependent patterns are often rooted in earlier attachment wounds, family dynamics, or unresolved trauma. These patterns aren’t “bad” — they’re protective. But they often lead to:
Emotional burnout or resentment
One partner taking on the role of caretaker or rescuer
Difficulty expressing needs or asking for support
Fear of abandonment or rejection
Chronic people-pleasing or self-sacrifice
In therapy, we explore:
Your relational blueprint: Where did these patterns begin?
Boundary repair: How to say “no” with love — and hear “no” without fear
Self-worth beyond the relationship
Healthy interdependence: The middle ground between enmeshment and avoidance
Rebuilding Healthy, Interdependent Relationships
In codependency counselling for couples, the goal isn’t to pull away — it’s to come back into alignment with yourself and your partner.
What this work can offer:
Tools to build emotional independence while staying connected
More equal roles in emotional labor and support
Better communication around needs, desires, and limits
Clarity around where you end and your partner begins — in a loving way
Support in transforming guilt-based giving into conscious, empowered choice
Sessions are held in-peerson and online and accessible to couples across Victoria and Vancouver Island — from Fernwood and Fairfield to Saanich, Oak Bay, Vancouver, Kelowna, British Columbia, and beyond.
You’re Not Broken — You’re Learning a New Way to Love
Codependency often develops from care, love, and a deep desire to be needed. But real love thrives when both partners can show up as whole, sovereign individuals.
In this work, we don’t blame — we bring awareness, restore balance, and co-create a relationship that feels emotionally safe, grounded, and mutually fulfilling.
Codependency Counselling for Couples in Victoria, BC and Online
If you recognize codependent dynamics in your relationship — or feel stuck in cycles of guilt, control, or over-functioning — I offer online and in-person couples counselling to help you reconnect with yourself and with each other.
Book a free consultation to begin transforming codependency into conscious connection.
“Healing codependency isn’t about separation — it’s about sovereignty within connection.”
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